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TORN ASUNDER | CHARTS and MAPS
FOUR CLASSES OF AFFAIRS
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CLASS
I |
CLASS
II |
| Biblical Illustration |
David & Bathsheba |
Samson & Delilah |
| Description |
One-night stand |
Long-term relationship |
| Development |
Immediate |
Gradual |
| Emotional Involvement |
None |
Intense |
| Sexual Activity |
Single experience; intense, lustful, passionate |
Only much later - after friendship established |
| Remorse/Repentance |
Usually immediate and intense |
Initially none; only grief for lost relationship |
| Recovery |
Can be immediate with forgiveness |
Long-term process with marital therapy |
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CLASS
III |
CLASS
IV |
| Biblical Illustration |
Eli’s sons |
Abraham & Hagar |
| Description |
Multiple partners/ sexual addiction |
Satisfies a specific marital void |
| Development |
Impulsive |
Gradual, focuses on marital void |
| Emotional Involvement |
None |
Intense, with narrow boundaries. No dating, gifts, plans for
marriage |
| Sexual Activity |
Immediate and repeated with multiple partners and increasingly
distorted sex |
Irregular, often without mutual enjoyment |
| Remorse/Repentance |
Only after acting-out episode; internal tension until another
episode is inevitable |
Regular, but marital void “drives” re-connection |
| Recovery |
Sobriety first; then individual therapy; marital therapy
later |
Long-term process with marital therapy
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